Mourning is a natural reaction to a loss. A feeling of deep sorrow.

Grieving however is a feeling of “I can’t live without you; I want to die too; I’m never ever going to be happy, feeling joy and love again. And still grieving is more commonly used. I’m not going to go on the scientific route here, because I have gone through both (grieving and mourning) unfortunately when my parents passed away. Awful, paralyzing, lonely feeling. I have also worked w clients, who were not able to transition from grieving to mourning, and it greatly interfered with their personal life, meaning w their relationships to those who are still living. Maybe this writing will help some people.

A very important negative feeling seems to appear during grieving is “guilt“: Maybe if I did this or that; I failed to say this or that…….will haunt you forever if you don’t make it stop. But you can’t make it stop, because you’re so week/feeble that you barely have the will to live. Stay with me, please. I know this isn’t an easy read, but important. First of all, you’ll find out, you’re not alone. Most people go through these stages.

I do need to mention one more issue that arises as a misunderstanding especially for children, but does not exclude adults either who were emotionally/spiritually close with the deceased. That is abandonment. For the living, especially for young people consciously or subconsciously the passing of the loved one seems as an abandonment. This feeling arises in cases of sudden loss, and it is not a rational one, due to shock, trauma, fear, anger that can not be dealt with immediately. Abandonment kind of sneaks up on the person being in a lot of pain. An experienced therapist, social worker or healer is definitely needed when the time is right. Timing is crucial for the person to be able to participate and cooperate with the healing process.

There is also a spiritual aspect of letting the loved one go, that is very personal and helps him/her “crossover” easier. Sometimes the person that passed away needs help entering eternity. Usually when he/she or their loved ones left things unsaid, unresolved or unfinished. Will explain in session.

As a healer, as a friend I have compassion, empathy for situations I have never been in, however this one is very familiar. Every person is different, but the energy healing I do create rapid personal transformation, which is absolutely necessary given the fact that another tragedy might take place, another life might get lost. Clearing those toxic thoughts and emotions that would NOT let you heal and live your life fully is mandatory. You have already spent probably years punishing yourself with “what ifs”, “how could I”, “I’m never gonna”, etc.

Let me show you that you re “wrong”. Believe me, this time you’ll want to be wrong. Please pass this on to someone who can’t seem to move on, let go or overcome. Save a life and save a family from falling apart. Tell them that they are wanted, they are needed, and they are loved here and now. I’m available for sessions and group healings as well.