How to Talk to Those Who are Hurting

I was just recently at a very nice presentation, and when I told them what is it that I do, a friend of mine raised a question: How do you approach somebody who has a problem? How do you convince them that they need help?

Well, I don’t think there is a recipe for this. Certainly a blunt approach would not work. When somebody is in it deep, it feels like the end of the World, that’s it, I’m never going to be happy, successful, rich, etc. again.

There are no rules, but there are some suggestions if I may. Be compassionate, and show that you truly care. If somebody who has issues is just annoying you, and you want the person out of your face, you’re not going to get anywhere.

Why would you care? I don’t think we can afford anymore not to. I think we can all agree, that the World in general is going to a wrong direction. Too much hatred, too much terror, too much rage. If we turn left and right, and just notice each other, with a little bit of empathy, we can find the right words to say without thinking about it too much. We can let the person know that he/she doesn’t have to go through anything alone. If he/she sends you to warmer climates (hell), it happened to me, hey, at least you tried, and you’re better for it.

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